When we change our thoughts we follow a new path
We’re often disillusioned with life when it doesn’t show up the way we think it should.
Our ‘should’ can come from expectations gifted to us in our DNA, taught to us when young, from our home life, the way we see things playing out within our family circle, through education, friends and now of course social media and the news.
But does our ‘should’ work for us as individuals? Recently I accepted that I would not be able to purchase my own home and had to reconcile to the fact I would continue to be a renter. At first I felt shame, I had let the side down, I was filled with guilt. Had I wasted my money, could I have worked harder or smarter. Maybe.
I could have owned my own home if I moved a long way out of Auckland. But my family, friends and networks are here and they help fill my heartspace. They help with my joy and happiness and I was not about to give that up. I have seen so many couples move out of Auckland when they retire and then one of them dies and they are alone. Their families rally around them and help with the healing process, and then the house goes on the market and they move back to Auckland. Most times they can’t buy back in the market so they rent.
I know that you can make friends anywhere you go, you can join groups, take up hobbies and new interests. But it takes time to build that history and in the interim there are gaps and spaces in the days where loneliness can bite. There would be long commutes to see the people I cherish. The cost in petrol was also a factor, so I decided to stay in Orewa by the beach and in close proximity to those I love.
Once I accepted I was going to be a renter, my vibe shifted along with my attitude. Life became easier and I began to enjoy myself more. Happiness is an inside job and with my shift in thinking I released a lot of pressure, I can relax more and life has more ease.
It really does show us that our thoughts are our reality. My new reality is Insights from a Clairvoyant. I feel inspired by this and find that now I am not fixated on owning my own home, I have energy and space for new adventures.